Sexy? In Control? Cougar? Why We Desire, And Revile, The Older Woman

The foreign press has breathlessly dissected the May-December relationship of France’s newly elected president Emmanuel Macron, 39, and his 64-year-old wife Brigitte Macron.

“She’s 24 years older! How can such a marriage work?” gasped Bild, a German tabloid, prompting feminist cries of ageism and sexism. (When people ask the same question of Donald Trump’s marriage to Melania, it has nothing to do with him being 23 years her senior.)

When Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore married in 2005, when he was 27 and she 42, plenty of us wondered: How can such a marriage work? And when Moore divorced Kutcher in 2011 amid rumors that he’d cheated on her with younger women, the narrative seemed to reinforce beauty and aging standards that make women less desirable when they reach an arbitrary, over-the-hill age.
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Things may be steamy between 38-year-old Kourtney Kardashian and her new, 23-year-old model boyfriend Younes Bendjima, but will he still be attracted to her 10 years from now? Is 30-year-old Vito Schnabel content with the slim odds of having biological children with his 44-year-old girlfriend, Heidi Klum?

We continue to be fascinated by the older woman-younger man relationship because we continue to feel conflicted about it. On the one hand, women are increasingly defying stereotypes about age in the context of these heterosexual relationships; they’re having children later in life, excelling in high-powered careers, and—not coincidentally—retaining their sex appeal well into their forties, if not their fifties and sixties. This subversion of gender roles is playing out in pop culture, too (think Téa Leoni in Madam Secretary and Julia Louis-Dreyfus in Veep).

At the same time, women are also more obsessed with retaining a youthful appearance than ever before, so much so that many are turning to cosmetic anti-aging procedures before they’ve even begun to show signs of aging.

Indeed, between 2010 and 2015, the American Society of Plastic Surgeons saw a 33 percent increase in the use of skin-plumping fillers among women between age 20 and 29.

So while famous and non-famous older women are increasingly pairing up with younger men, they are both desired and reviled.

History is rife with examples of kings and emperors taking older lovers (King Henri II was wildly in love with Diane de Poitiers, who was 20 years his senior), but older-woman relationships are still battling stigma.

The modern cougar, for example, has been fetishized as a kind of predatory freak, like her ancient Greek counterpart, Phaedra, who falls in love with Hippolytus (her husband’s son from another marriage) and seeks deadly revenge when he rebuffs her advances.

And as much as Samantha Jones’ character in Sex and the City was celebrated for her boundary-breaking sluttiness and midlife sexual appetite, more women today would prefer Charlotte’s married-with-children life to Samantha’s sexually liberated singledom.


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